Monday, August 20, 2018

"The Snowmobile"



The Story:

Ephesians 3:20 "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations for ever and ever! Amen."


When we found out we were pregnant in early February, we knew we HAD to buy a vehicle. The two we owned in fact, were broken down, 100% undrivable at the time, and we were borrowing a car. Two days after our positive pregnancy test, this Excursion was listed for sale. WAAAAAAAAY too expensive for any chance that our family could ever afford it. But something about the Craigslist ad stuck with me, and I couldn't stop thinking about it. In late Feb. or early March, Eric called the owner to learn more about the rig. We knew we couldn't buy it, but something was compelling us to call anyway. Eric had a good talk with the owner. Months passed, the Excursion was no longer listed for sale, and we continued "shopping" for vehicles, and saving every dime we could, knowing our tax refund was only enough to buy an old beater, not something to meet our family and farm needs. Throughout this process, we kept laying our need at God's feet. We got my little KIA running, only to have yet another part break, leaving it unusable. The explorer transmission kept running, but progressively getting worse, as more and more parts began breaking/failing on it. It's now mid-summer, and after looking at hundreds of vehicles for sale, I had never forgotten the Excursion ad. And I couldn't stop thinking about it. Finally one day I said to Eric, "I know it's completely insane, but would you call the guy in Bremerton and just ask if he still has it?" So, Eric did. And, yes, they still had it. They were now asking $2000 less than their original asking price. Eric thanked them, and said if we could put the money together we'd let them know. At this point, we had several family members lovingly pitch money into our "vehicle savings". That generosity helped tremendously. Another month passed by, and we were still several thousand short of the asking price. We both agreed and believed that God would provide a vehicle, we just had to find the right one. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't stop the tug on my heart towards "that one." We had a list of vehicles we could afford, all with significantly more miles and not as good of shape, but within our price range. But always, something would stop us from pursuing the purchase. It's now early August, and I have an overwhelming feeling, so I finally share my thoughts with Eric...And told him I thought we needed to make an offer on the excursion, even though we were waaay under their asking price. I mean hey, the worst they could say is no, right? So we made our offer. The answer was that the owner and his wife would talk about it. Ok...Not a "no". A week went by with no answer. We figured ...ok, our offer was too low, that's ok. God will provide something else. And we truly believed that. Our hearts were at peace. One evening we were sitting at our patio umbrella table watching the last of the evening light fade away, and a message came through on Eric's phone. It was the owner of the excursion, telling us they would accept our offer. We were immediately wiping away grateful tears. We set it up with the owner to meet in Bremerton the following Saturday. Only...The next day, life threw us a curveball. I ended up in the hospital with a pregnancy scare. And consequently, unable to travel all the way to Bremerton. We contacted the owner, and explained what had happened, asking if we could postpone picking the vehicle up. His response? "I'll deliver it to you." ...We were blown away. On Saturday morning, a flatbed semi pulled into our driveway with the excursion. The owner started talking about his kids, five of them with #6 on the way! And he commented that his wife homeschools using a Christian curriculum. And that's where the connection on a much deeper level occurred. We weren't strangers meeting for the first time, we were FAMILY. The family of God. And...They didn't just bless us by bringing the excursion to our door. He brought us 4 extra tires on rims, completely detailed the vehicle and engine to a spotless clean, changed the oil, filled the gas tank, gave us a box of unopened bottles of oil, oil filters, fuel and air filters and replacement windshield wipers. They went completely above and beyond. We had a great visit, and prayer together before his trip back home. We all knew this entire transaction purchasing the vehicle was God's hand. We've talked one more time since Saturday, and the owner commented that he has no doubt God brought us together. 

I share this story, because we want others to know that God is faithful in ways we can't imagine. We prayed for a vehicle, but never dreamed we would be so abundantly blessed. This story is in no way about us. It's about God. Do you have a need? Lay it before Him. He is trustworthy, and deserving of praise!

In less than 2 months we'll welcome our new baby boy, we cannot wait to see what God has for our family in this next exciting chapter of life!

Monday, September 28, 2015

I'M SAFE IN THE ARMS OF JESUS



It's ok to cry dear Mommy
I know your heart hurts so.
I wish I could stop your pain dear Daddy
Please hold my Mommy close.

Give kisses to my siblings
Hug them every day.
Please tell them that I love them
Cody, Matthew, RJ, Abby, and Kelsie Mae

I know that for all of life you'll feel broken, empty, and scarred.
I know that you still miss me and the days ahead are hard.
I know you'll never forget me or the day that I was due.
I know you'll cry at Christmastime and every anniversary too.
I know you hoped to hear my voice and touch my newborn face.
I know you longed to hold me forever in your embrace.
I know your plans and dreams feel spiraling out of control;
But there is something you need to hear that will touch your very soul.

I've seen the face of Jesus.
I've touched the hand of God.
I know of Heaven's Glory;
This place where Saints have trod.

I've sang with the angels in the presence of the KING
The Lamb of God, The Prince of Peace, Most Holy is His name!
Something so incomprehensible your earthly words have failed to acclaim.

I've met my older sibling, we're the very best of friends.
We're waiting here together 'til your earthly travel ends.

Grandma Snow and Valerie, a host of others too,
All met me here and held me close...it was like being held by YOU.

I'm safe in the arms of Jesus!
So listen to this truth:

I'll never be seduced by sin or fall to Satan's snare.
He lost the war to gain my soul, he cannot touch me here.

I'll never face the pain of earth, its broken sinful state
I'll never face the ugliness of sorrow, anger, or hate.

God gave me as a gift to you, though I live in Heaven above
My life is to be shared with others as a witness of His LOVE.

Because of YOUR love Mommy and Daddy, and with the blessing of God's grace;
I was formed fearfully and wonderfully made, nothing about me was a mistake.

I'm fulfilling my purpose in Heaven and now I have a job for you:

Go forward with your life dear family, Christ's love will be your guide.
Surrender all into His hands, trusting Him with everything, He will always ALWAYS provide.

So when you think of your precious child, your Darling Baby Snowflake
Remember that I'm not far away.
Jesus lives inside you, He resides within your heart.
I'm safe in the arms of Jesus
Which means we'll NEVER be apart.

© -D. Snow

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Shoulder to Cry On




Uncontrollable sobbing
Wild heart throbbing
The anguish - soul stopping.
 
A shoulder to cry on.
 
Floods of tears
Unquieted fears
Distressed weeping piercing ears.
 
A shoulder to cry on.
 
Buried by sorrow
No hope for tomorrow
Seismic anger equivalent to Kilimanjaro.
 
A shoulder to cry on.
 
Agonizing pain
Yet can't contain
Overwhelming emotional drain.
 
 A shoulder to cry on.
 
Leather Book
Take a look
Holding onto a shepherd's hook.
 
 A shoulder to cry on.
 
Forgiveness. Mercy. Grace.
Death on a cross, took my place.
Empty tomb. My sins - erased.
 
A shoulder to cry on.
 
Despite this world's decay
He's worthy of my praise
For all my mortal days.
 
A shoulder to cry on.
 
So when your world's at war
And you can't hold on anymore
Let Him be your:
 
SHOULDER TO CRY ON.
 
 
© -D. Snow
 

 



Wednesday, December 31, 2014

How to Survive Motherhood

This Blog is short and sweet, to all you mama's of little ones.
How to Survive Motherhood:

PRAY OFTEN

The end.


HAPPY 2015!!

Sunday, October 5, 2014

When Waiting Changes FAST


I am the mother of THREE children. Ages 3 and under. Three babies, three years. And as I'm writing this, it was 3 weeks ago today that the newest member of my brood entered our world. It's safe to say that I'm still working on grasping the reality of this threesome entrusted to my care!

 

I'm sure that there are all sorts of blogs out there talking about labor and delivery, what the experience was like, etc. I personally have written something about each of my kids' births, and yes, that is what this blog post will be about. But, it honestly isn't the labor and delivery that grasps my heart…as much as the lesson I have learned in each of my children's births. So bear with me as I ramble…since rambling is what I do best!

 

Without writing down all the details of the long, torturous 9 months of pregnancy, I'll just say that my 3rd pregnancy was by far my hardest; the sickest I've ever been in my life, the most stressed out I've ever been, and by far…oh by far the most exhausted, so exhausted there are not words to describe the experience. My body's overall pain level far exceeded anything I'd been through before as well, and by 35 weeks, I was definitely at my limit. But there was still that last month to endure…

 

The Braxton Hicks contractions were a saga all of their own during this pregnancy, I felt the first ones around 12-15 weeks pregnant. By the time 30 weeks came around, I was in and out of the hospital to get false labor stopped. My doctor knew, and we were beginning to suspect, that this little one would come early, and come FAST.

 

We were blessed beyond measure to make a trip to Montana when I was 35 weeks pregnant for my stepson's wedding. It was God's grace that got us there and home safely. It was an amazing journey, one that has a story all it's own, but that isn't what I'm here to write about today.

 

I'm here…to talk about waiting. To talk about patience. Something…I'm not exactly all that good at.

 

This pregnancy had pushed me beyond my limits. With two toddlers at home to care for, a household to run, a farm that needs constant attention, and a husband who works full time, I can honestly say that I was beyond what I could endure. Tears of frustration and from sheer pain came often. But, I can also honestly say, I have never been so fully wrapped in God's grace as what I experienced while going through the horrors of this pregnancy. I was so ill, so completely at the end of myself, that I had no choice but to lay my very being in the arms of my Heavenly Father. It was there in His presence that I could find rest. In that shadow of His wing, I could feel peace.

 

As I said, I struggle with patience, waiting is not exactly one of my "gifts". When we got home from Montana, those last weeks of pregnancy ahead of me felt like a literal eternity. We knew it would be that way, waiting for the wedding day to arrive, waiting for the trip to take place; we knew that afterwards our whole world would be focused on the coming of our precious daughter. Every day felt excruciatingly long; far worse than when we waited through the last few weeks of our previous pregnancies. It's hard to put into to words what that is like, but even though my calendar told me that days were passing by, it seemed that there were still as many days ahead of me before that looming "due date" would finally arrive.

 

37 weeks came around, and baby's head was fully engaged in my pelvic bones, I was dilated to a solid 3, and the pressure I was experiencing was INTENSE. Most days I could barely walk. Getting in and out of bed was impossible. My dear husband literally had to lift me out of bed, and often had to help me on and off the toilet, or out of chairs. Looking back, it is a wonder I made it through taking care of the kids by myself while he was at work each day. Ah God's grace…have I mentioned that? Can I just get an AMEN?! Thank you again Jesus, you really are the only way I made it!

 

That 37th week was a tough one. But, I did make it to a family picnic, and even managed a short walk through the woods at my family's property. It seemed that even though I could literally barely walk thanks to a little head crushing my pelvic bones, I felt the need to walk. So each day, we did our best (very slowly I might add) to walk down our driveway before bed. (something we try to do normally anyway, but I hadn't felt well enough those last few weeks)

 

On Thursday, August 14th, I was 38 weeks pregnant. And truly, I could not walk. In my doctor's office at my appointment that day I could only shuffle my feet, while holding on to my husband's arm. My doctor was concerned about me, my pain level was so extreme. We decided to have her strip membranes to see if labor would begin. I felt a huge peace with this decision, knowing it was a form of inducing labor; I am passionate about natural childbirth, even though I had yet to actually give birth without some kind of drugs/etc. I believe in letting nature take its course. Or more simply put…I believe giving birth is God's timing, not mine. But as I sat in the doctor's office talking this over with my OBGYN, it was as though the Lord whispered in my ear… "It's still My timing. If you go into labor because of this, it's still on My time. If I choose to make you wait longer and stripping membranes doesn’t induce labor, it's because I chose to make you wait."

 

I knew that if this was going to work, we would be having a baby in the next 24ish hours. As my doctor left the room and I was getting dressed, I looked at my precious Eric and it started to sink in that we could be having a baby in our arms very soon. I could see the emotion welling up in his eyes too. How I love this man!

 

We headed for home to our sweet, energetic toddlers and the best grandma in the world taking care of them. We let her know that we could be having a baby, so be ready for the call. I spent the evening packing the rest of our "hospital bag" and making sure the house was ready for us to be gone if labor did indeed start.

 

That evening, I felt…weird…but certainly not like labor was going to start. I didn't even have the usual BH contractions. I went to bed exhausted, but couldn't sleep. My pain level had reached an all new high (can someone explain to me how that is possible?!) and to say I was beyond miserable is an understatement. I finally had my hubby help me to the couch, where we got me snuggled up in blankets with pillows there, hoping that I could at least get a little rest. I did finally get a couple hours of sleep. I woke up at 5:30am and made it to the bathroom on my own. No contractions. No blood (sorry if that feels like graphic info, but hey…it's a reality of childbirth) no NOTHING. I sat there as it sank in that I hadn't gone into labor that night like we expected. I felt my shoulders slump, and for a moment…felt horribly discouraged. I just sat there, letting reality sink in. I finally started to pray. (c'mon, you know you've sat on the toilet talking to God too…) I couldn't help but re-hear His words, telling me that it was His timing, not mine. I felt the peace wash over me as I prayed, and said "Ok, God. I accept that I didn't go into labor. I understand we won't be having a baby today. I trust You. I'm ok with that. Just please…please don't make me wait too long? Help me endure the amount of time You have left for me before this baby is born."

 

I got up and wow the pressure was bad. And boy…did I feel terrible. I felt like I could throw up, I was lightheaded, and the pressure…oh wow. And that need to walk? Yep, I just felt like I needed to walk and walk. So, slower than a turtle trudging through mud up a steep hill, I walked around the loop of our house. Round and round I went while the rest of my family slept. I finally plopped down in the recliner and put my feet up. It wasn't long, and at 6:30am, I had a contraction.

 

I quirked an eyebrow, but after literally months of Braxton Hicks contractions, I didn't think too much of this one. 5 minutes later, another.

 

"Ok," I thought. "We'll see if this actually turns out to be something." 5 minutes later, another. But they weren't intense, and they weren't feeling like "the real thing." But, I got up, and waddled to the bedroom and woke Eric up. I felt the need to use the restroom again, starting to feel pretty sick to my stomach. I was beginning to have more of a "cramping" feeling, than actual contractions. And while I had read about menstrual-type cramping as a possible labor sign, I personally had never experienced it with my other births. I did have some "bloody show" so I knew we needed to go to the hospital and get checked out, but I also expected some blood because of my doctor's cervical exam the day before. I told Eric to go ahead and call my grandma, but…I also told him I still wasn't convinced that this was the real thing. It was now 7am-ish. I waddled around the house packing the few last minute items into our hospital bag while Eric went to feed the farm animals. That next half hour my contractions slowed down, and I was only having them now and then, making me believe that this was going to prove to be nothing more than another false episode. Eric came back in from doing chores, now around 7:30am. We were standing in the kitchen, and I was having more contractions again, now coming about 3 minutes apart. I had just said "I still don't think this is really labor, it just doesn't feel like it." And boom…a contraction hit, and my water broke. With my firstborn, my water had to be artificially broke while I was at the hospital in labor. With my second birth when my daughter was born, my water broke on it's own while I was at the hospital, well into labor, but while I was on an epidural. This was my first time "feeling" my water break. It literally felt like a balloon popped inside me.

 

My eyes got really big, and I said "Eric! My water just broke! Get me to the bathroom, quick." I felt a dramatic urge to have a bowel movement, the pressure was unbearable. Thankfully I made it to the toilet when the massive gush came. I sat there on the toilet, looked up at my hubby and said, "We're having a baby today!"

 

Now take a brief moment for comic relief. In the middle of the night, RJ, our 3 year old son, had got up and prowled around the house. He got into a drawer of stuff in the bathroom and left it all sitting on the bathroom floor. We had picked that mess up when we first got up that morning. But…as I'm sitting there on the toilet, cleaning myself up and talking to Eric about what steps we needed to take next, I glanced at the wall next to the bathtub/shower. There, stuck to the wall…was a bar of soap. Yes, a brand new bar of hotel soap (from our Montana trip) had been unwrapped, and…apparently, it had enough moisture that it could "glue" to the wall. Which I'm sure…made a little boy VERY happy. Needless to say…in that moment as we were realizing that a baby was truly on its way; these parents busted up laughing: At a bar of soap.

 

My grandma arrived a little before 8am, and wow had my body picked up the pace. I was now having a hard time breathing through the contractions. Eric had to move the toddler carseats out of our Explorer and into Gramme's car so that she could travel with the kids. The contractions I was experiencing in those short 10 minutes were about knocking me off my feet, I could no longer lean into the wall and ease my body through each one, my legs were beginning to shake and it was sinking in that we needed to get on the road…FAST.

 

Eric was still in the "preparing" mode, so getting him out the door took me a little longer than I had anticipated. He didn't quite seem to grasp the urgency I was feeling. That isn't to say he was lollygagging around, I honestly think more than anything; the man was in shock that my water had broke and he wasn't functioning at a normal pace. I told him we needed to go, NOW, and I started walking to the explorer. I could barely walk, my legs had turned to jello, and all I could do was pray. Eric followed behind me and reached me at the passenger door where I was yet again desperately trying to ease myself through a contraction. My water was finishing breaking, and I could feel the baby's head. I had no urge to push yet, and I knew we weren't quite at that "stage" yet, but…this was my first moment of the morning where I began to question whether we would actually make it to the hospital in time. When Eric saw me during that contraction, it was obvious that the urgency had hit him full force. We left my Gramme at the house with the kids…who were thankfully still sleeping. It was time to go have a baby!

 

We got onto the freeway for the 25 minute drive to the hospital. I knew it would be intense and brutally uncomfortable. I was right. The contractions were tearing my body apart, the back labor was so intense. I could brace my feet on the floor in front of me, hold onto the hand-hold on the frame of the door in front of me with my right hand, and my left hand pushed on the ceiling, managing to ease some of the pressure off my back through the intensity of each one. Eric drove like our butts were on fire, turned on our emergency flashers, and from the story I've heard, we got some pretty good looks of shock as people we drove past saw the lady in labor grimacing through contractions! Haha J


There were times the contractions, now coming less than 2 minutes apart, were so intense I wondered how I'd ever manage. My legs were shaking, I felt like throwing up, and we still had miles to drive. All I could do was pray and breathe. Pray and breathe. It was amazingly beautiful, that moment when each contraction would hit it's peak, the pain so intense the beads of sweat were dimpling my forehead and running down my backbone…and yet, it was in that most intense moment, I felt the Holy Spirit's peace wash over me, and each time I heard a still, small voice whisper: "Relax". It only took a couple contractions hearing that voice, and for the rest of the drive, I felt that sensation of relaxing wash over me. Now…that isn't to say that somehow I wasn't in pain anymore, or that it was now "easy". Because it wasn't. Every second of each contraction took every bit of my attention, and I continued to be able to do nothing but pray and breathe. But I was at peace now. Assured peace that my Father was with me. I hadn't ever been truly afraid, but any anxiety, any concerns or fears lingering inside me washed away.

 

When we arrived at the hospital, Eric brought a wheelchair and got me in to admissions. The only "good" thing about having been in and out of the hospital so many times during this pregnancy, meant there was literally no paperwork to deal with, they had all my current information logged into their computer system. All I had to do was confirm that everything was accurate, and sign consent forms. And for those blessed few minutes, the Lord gave me the grace of my contractions slowing down. I could at least talk to the receptionist and sign my name where needed.

 

We got upstairs to Labor and Delivery, and I was picking up the pace again. There was no way I could even consider standing to take my weight. But, I had just been to the doctor the day before, so no big deal, they had taken my weight then. We got into our room, and I needed to undress. The contractions were back to barely giving me a breather in between…try getting undressed during THAT. Eric had to undress me, I could barely move. I was still in the wheelchair, and was having a very hard time. Eric had to practically lift me into the hospital bed. I looked up at the clock, it was 9am, straight up.

 

Can I ask…WHY must a woman in labor be put through the torture of A MILLION QUESTIONS?! Seriously, I swear it took an eternity to try to get through all the formalities of paperwork on the computer system. Ok, not really, but it sure felt like it. They had called for the anesthesiologist, and I was truly wondering if he would even get there before a baby was in my arms! I learned that it is nearly IMPOSSIBLE to sign your name on consent forms while your body is brutally being shaken by contractions. I actually was even able to laugh at the absurdity of my attempts to scribble my name, even in those intense moments. I was only dilated to a 5 when I arrived, so I figured we still had some time to wait before our baby would be born.

 

The anesthesiologist finally arrived, and I honestly wondered why I was putting myself through the torture. If you've never had a baby, I'll be very honest with you; getting the epidural is worth it for long labor. But, I'll also tell you that it is the MOST AWFUL time during labor. Trying to curl your back and not move while needles are inserted…oh man. And, my labor was so intense at this point, it was all I could do to hold my sanity together. This was the one time during labor that I could no longer grasp that moment of relaxing, Eric was right there with me, but I was losing that sense of peace.

 

And then, it happened. The epidural was done, but not hooked up. An initial push of medication to check the line into my back had been given to me. My labor nurse was telling me that she was ready to move my legs back onto the bed, that I could just let her know when I felt able. The anesthesiologist was getting ready to connect me to the IV pump, and

BAM!

 

Instead of a contraction that started and peaked and backed off, it hit me like a truck, full force, so hard, I was instantly crying out. I could feel the baby's head, she was crowning. I had no control, my body was doing the pushing for me. If I had been told "don't push!" I would have had no way to stop it.

 

The nurse moved like lightning. She grabbed my legs and swung me back into the bed, at the same time calling out for help. My hospital room literally exploded in motion. I was only vaguely aware of what was happening around me, as the labor had completely seized me and I could no longer move, it seemed I had no control over anything but the intensity of what was grabbing my body. Eric was now at my left leg, the nurse was checking my progress, and just as I knew, baby's head was visible. My nurse stepped into the hallway, and literally YELLED for my doctor.

 

The activity in the room was amazing. The anesthesiologist had stepped to the side out of the way of the labor staff. I literally had the entire birthing floor in my hospital room. My legs were moved into position in the stirrups, my nurse was assuring me I was doing great, and in the next moment, my doctor was stepping through the door, I heard her voice and opened my eyes long enough to smile at her. She was shoving her scrubs on, she walked up to me, took one look at me and said "Are you ready?" With a big grin on her face, she told me to go ahead and push. A precious little head finished making its appearance into the world, and Eric said to me "She's got a lot of hair! …and it doesn't look brown…" Baby's shoulders caught a little bit, and my doctor had to adjust the baby's position a little. My body actually took a slight break, I wasn't in a constant contraction as I had been since the baby's head crowned. (I'm not exaggerating, there was absolutely no breathing, no relaxing, no nothing but the constant push of my body giving birth.) In that brief respite, the nurses were able to reposition my body, moving my legs slightly and getting me into a better position for the final push. My doctor coached me for the next push, and a beautiful baby girl had entered our world…

 

I looked at my husband, I looked at my baby, I smiled at my doctor, I heard the words "It's 9:56am" I heard my baby's cry for the first time. As she was being dried off, I heard the exclamations coming all at once, nurses, my doctor, and my precious husband were all saying it at the same time "It looks like she has red hair!"  One of the nurses by my side took my hospital gown off. And then the warmth of this precious gift was laid against my breast.

 

Kelsie Mae was finally in my arms!

 

I'll never forget the look of sheer joy as my doctor handed Eric the scissors to cut Kelsie's umbilical chord. Nor will I forget the grin of absolute happiness on my husband's face. I think his heart was busting out of his chest. There was no shame in the tears sneaking their way down our cheeks. Oh that these memories will stay locked in my heart forever!

 

As the commotion in the room died down, and it was now just Eric, me, my doctor and my delivery nurse, it began sinking in just how FAST the whole thing had occurred. Eric was finally letting out a breath. We all kind of just took a moment and relaxed. It was sort of like we all got hit at the same time just how incredibly quick my labor had been. One of the nurses jokingly said to Eric, "And you win the award for calmest Daddy ever!" Eric laughed and said, "Are you kidding? I'm still waiting for her to be born! That happened SO FAST!" As my doctor began stitching me, I laughed…and said, "Well, now my legs are getting numb!" I never did get a true epidural, but just that initial push of medication. It was just enough meds to make my legs numb. But too late! J

 

Those few minutes after Kelsie was born were precious. We have a really good relationship with my OBGYN, she had missed our other kids' births, so she was SO excited to get to deliver Kelsie! She was already at work that morning when she got the call that one of her patients was in labor, and she told us that she was so hoping it was me. She then got word that it WAS me in labor, and she shared with us how incredibly excited she was to get to be with us for this delivery. Then she got the call that she needed to come because the baby was crowning, and she told us that she thought "Oh! If that's Denae, I don't even have time to go pee! I need to run!" So she literally ran from the Physician's Pavilion over to the Hospital. And sure enough, she barely made it through the door in time to deliver our baby! We all had a great laugh together, and couldn't help but giggle because she still hadn't had that chance to go to the bathroom as she was finishing me up. I can't even describe how blessed I feel to have such an amazing doctor. I have no contact with her outside of a patient/doctor relationship of course, but I truly feel like she is a friend. She's been AMAZING.

 

From the time I felt Kelsie's head crown, to her birth, was less than 5 minutes!(Eric tells me maybe 3.5 minutes) I only pushed twice. I had gone from dilated to a 5, to fully dilated in less than a half hour. Labor lasted not quite 3 1/2 hours from start to finish. She came FAST.

 

I have one more thing I want to share about the birth. I did it without the aid of medication. It was a "natural" birth. Those 5 minutes from the push of epidural medication to her birth wasn't long enough for the medication to begin working in my system. Yes, I felt it afterwards, but I had no assistance from numbing or pain killers while I delivered Kelsie. I have always wondered what a natural birth felt like. Granted, my other two kids were 12 hours of labor each, and with the back labor I experienced, I never ever would have "survived" without the epidural. I am immensely thankful for what I experienced during their births, with the aid of medication. But this time, it was so different. Yes, it was intense. It was intense like nothing I've ever experienced. But…it was AMAZING. I don't even know how to explain how blessed I feel that I got to feel childbirth. That I got to fully experience what it felt like. Did it hurt? Yeah, I guess so. But…not like you think "hurt" should feel like. Did I cry out? Yes, I'm pretty sure every other woman in labor could hear me. In fact, I jump-started the day. The nurses actually teased me that it was because the other ladies in labor heard me, that the whole floor went into fast labor. Seriously, I gave birth and then 4 more women gave birth shortly after. We joked that it was like getting a room of women living together and they all get on the same menstrual cycle. Yep, something about me giving birth that morning brought all the other babies really quickly too. All the nurses I saw that day told me about it. Apparently it took them all by surprise. Anyway, I've heard all kinds of stories about women screaming in childbirth, but…no, I didn't scream. More of intense moaning…I guess you could call it. Regardless, it was literally the most amazing experience I have ever had. My only regret, is that it took so much of my attention, that I didn't feel a really close connection to Eric while I gave birth. When RJ and Abby were born, He was my coach, holding me, talking to me, right there as close as possible. He was there, just the same, holding my left leg, coaching me, talking to me, the exact same as our other deliveries. But, for me…I wasn't able to focus on my husband at all. I think during the birth, I was able to open my eyes once and make a brief eye contact with him, but overall, I actually felt very disconnected. I think that was simply because it happened so insanely fast, and my body was so seized in that moment, I had nothing but the ability to focus on the contraction. I do remember crying out one time "Oh God" as a prayer, the only thing I could say in the intensity of the moment. I am SO thankful for a personal, loving Savior who stands beside me!

If I had known Kelsie would come that fast, I never would have even attempted the epidural. I would have just worked through the contractions and had a baby. But there was no way I could know she would come that fast ahead of time. I'll come back to that thought soon.

 

My hospital room cleared, and it was now just me, my dearest husband, and our new precious…REDHEADED daughter. I don't know who shed the first tear. I know we both did. I know that we both were sitting in wonderment as the reality of those few short hours sank in. I did get sick about an hour after birth, my body finally reacted to the epidural medication and I threw up. But, I amazingly felt really well. In fact, by far the best I have ever felt after giving birth. I didn't experience the swelling like usual, and even though I tore a little bit, the pain wasn't bad. We let some time pass by, just enjoying our newborn, just the 3 of us, before beginning the barrage of text messages, Facebook posts, and phone calls to family. I think it took over an hour just to send out all the notifications, and sort through the dozens of text messages making our phones go wild after we announced the news! But those are all memories that make the moment so special.

 

In late afternoon, Gramme brought RJ and Abby to the hospital to meet their new sister. I'm not sure what I expected, but my heart was absolutely busting with the emotions of seeing my two older babies meet this tiny little creature in my arms. RJ fully understood that Kelsie had "come out" of Mommy's tummy. He was SO excited! He would touch the top of Kelsie's head so tenderly, with such joy and sparkle to his eyes! And oh how he loved kissing her! It was incredibly precious to have him climb into my lap on the hospital bed, tenderly touch my tummy, and tell me how Kelsie wasn't in there anymore. Abby, well…like any 19 month old, she wasn't overly excited by a new baby, she was FAR more interested in all the gadgets and wonderful new things to explore in a hospital room. The closet was particularly a fun place to play! Haha

 

My Dad was in the middle of a baseball tournament, he's an umpire and was scheduled to be in games all day long. He was able to get our text messages about the baby though, so he was able to share in our joy. Amazingly there was just enough cell service that my sister got the picture we sent via text, so she and my Mom were able to see a picture that day as well, and we had a good visit over the phone, but with Dad's busy umpiring schedule with summer tournaments, they decided to come see us when we got home from the hospital the next late afternoon/evening. So other than Gramme and the kids, our first day with Kelsie Mae was just the three of us (and a whole lot of phone calls!) and it was absolutely WONDERFUL.

 

There are no words to really describe the emotions, how dramatically in love I am/was with my husband that day, sitting there together in the quiet of our room, just gazing upon this precious, beautiful life. We were tired, but oh so incredibly happy! I'll never forget the moment that caught my heart the most. I was resting on the hospital bed, while Eric held Kelsie in his arms in the chair next to me, the filtered light coming through the window blinds, touching the whisps of red hair on top of our baby's head. I rolled my head to the side to look at my husband, just in time to see him let go of the emotions, and begin to cry…and he said, "I miss my Mom so much… She would be so excited to know we have a red-headed daughter. She would love her so much…" We talk about Eric's mom a lot, how we miss her, how we wish she could be with the kids, Eric shares memories, etc. But, this was a special moment, and my heart broke watching my man…and the little boy inside, simply missing his Mama. And oh wow…I miss her too. I think somehow she knows. I don't know what the Lord does or doesn't allow us to see from Heaven, but when I look at my beautiful family, and the amazing redemption of my husband's life, I think somehow, she knows. So on that day in our hospital room, I just held my husband's hand as he cried, and we let the tears fall together. I wish so much that Grandma Snow could have been there to hold our baby girl that day.

 

There are of course lots and lots of other memories I could write about our time in the hospital, or the excitement of coming home. We didn't get any sleep the night Kelsie was born. Kelsie was ok, but hospitals are not quiet, nor are they made for comfortable sleeping. I remember eating snacks (chips I think it was?!) at 4am. I remember talking, oh how we talked…about so much stuff in life. I remember listening to Eric talk to Matthew while he was at National Guard training in Idaho, and talking to Cody as well, wishing so badly that our oldest boys weren't so far away, wishing they could be there with us or be there when we got home from the hospital. I remember all the special conversations via text/facebook/email/etc with close friends and loved ones. So special to have a social media network that allows us to share a life event like that! And how special it was to have Eric's brother Randy come up and spend the day with us at the hospital before we were discharged; very special memories!

 

I know I'm rambling…as I said at the beginning of this post, rambling is what I do J But…there IS a point to all this. And I think I'll get to that point now.

 

We waited. It felt like an eternity, but it was only 38 weeks. It could have been 40. But when God said it was time…the change came SO QUICKLY…so incredibly fast. I was sitting on a toilet having a conversation with God about my disappointment…and a couple hours later I was sitting on a hospital bed with my baby on my chest, the waiting OVER.

 

How often in life…is it like that? How many times, in how many ways, do we wait and wait and wait (often impatiently I might add) and then BAM…what we've been waiting for happens in the blink of an eye? This is something that the Lord has been laying on my heart heavily, and it's a lesson He needed me to learn, through the birth of my daughter. We've been waiting for a change in life, waiting on moving to a ranch, and it keeps falling through, leaving us waiting longer and longer. Really the question I have to ask myself, is: "Can I be content, regardless?" It's a hard question to deal with. It's so easy to fall into the pit of waiting, to feel discouraged because life's timing isn't turning out the way we had hoped or planned. God showed me through my daughter's birth that I need to trust in His timing. There are so many areas of my life where I forget this. I forget to let go of my own agenda and trust that in His time, life will play out how He desires.

 

So, I end this post by asking a question. Do you trust the Almighty's timing?

 

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

I love my Job!


Tonight as I showered... my mind wandered over just what my "job" in life is, and as I so often find, the Holy Spirit jumped in and ran away with my thoughts, showing me just who I am. It's a bit overwhelming!

 

I am the daughter of the One True King.

 

Let's just take a moment and think about that. If I'm the daughter of a king, then...I am by all rights a Princess! And...if I am a princess, just what exactly does that mean? I'm sure that you, like me, immediately think of the royalty we see here on this earth, the "royal families" that fill our modern world, or even the royal families that have existed over the generations. Let's take a look at what some of the world's definitions of a princess are:

prin·cess [ prínsəss ]

1. royal woman or girl: a woman or girl in a royal family, especially a daughter of the reigning king or queen

2. prince's wife: the wife or widow of a prince

3. female ruler: a woman who rules a principality

Here's the definition I like best: archaic: a woman having sovereign power

Now, just let me say...I'm not drawn to that last definition because I'm seeking "power". All too often our power as females are drawn for wrong purposes. That's not where I'm headed with the thought at all. But rather...what power do I have in Christ? If I am the daughter of the King, what power does that give me?

Then I must ask myself, what exactly is expected of a princess? Royalty is always in the public's eye. The media goes wild for that exclusive glance into the private life of a princess. Nothing about a princess' life is hidden or secret.

A princess is a very involved life, reaching out to charities, making constant appearances at social functions.

But, here's a fact about being a princess that I bet you didn't really stop and think about before: The greatest duty of a princess is producing the next heir to the throne.

 

Wait. Let it sink in.

 

The greatest duty of a princess is producing the next heir to the throne.

 

Oh my GOODNESS!! As I'm looking into just who I am in Christ, the Holy Spirit reminds me that I'm the daughter of the King, making me a Princess...and then just like a lightning bolt from the sky as I study just what a princess is, I'm shocked into the realization that my "job" is to be a MOM. If I ever questioned God's purpose for my life, I question it no more! Now, don't misunderstand me, I realize that the Heavenly Father doesn't call all women to be mothers, and I'm not trying to make that claim as I'm writing. This is about my personal walk with our Lord, and the enormity of this reality is making my heart swell to capacity! And if my job is to raise an heir to the throne, then I must give everything I have to teaching my children about the royalty they have been born into. As in: TEACH THEM ABOUT CHRIST!! "Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring." Malachi 2:15

 

Now, I kinda skipped over one very important part of this picture, and it isn't a piece of the puzzle that can be ignored. If being a Princess means I am to produce an heir to the throne, then I need a husband! That means...one of my other "jobs" is to be a wife. What an honorable position!! And while we're speaking of royalty, I *love* this verse: "A wife of noble character is her husband's crown..." Proverbs 12:4. I could write a whole book just trying to describe what it means to be a noble wife to my husband, but for sake of time I will shorten my thoughts only to just how seriously I take this part of God's calling for me. This job as "wife" doesn't just include my earthly husband. This is a piece of this princess picture that gives me tingles. Not only do I gain this prestigious position as princess by being the daughter of the King, but I am also Christ's bride! Think about that definition of princess: the daughter of a reigning king, or a prince's wife.  Oh how my heart soars at this! I am the bride of the Prince of Peace!

 

So a quick recap of my "job" as a Princess:

          I'm the daughter of the One True King.

 

          I am a wife, the "bride" of the Prince of Peace, and the Ezer         Kenegdo (Genesis 2:18) to my earthly husband. (Such a    cool word, very poorly translated in our Bibles as the    "helper or help-meet"...I like the translation of "lifesaver"    so much better! Thank you Stasi Eldredge for such an    intimate look into God's creation of women in the book

          Captivating)

 

          I am a mother, to raise an heir to the throne!

 

I mentioned earlier that a princess is expected to be involved in charities and seen at social functions. I bet you never really thought about a princess as a servant. What a beautiful picture this draws as the Holy Spirit continues to illuminate for me the life He has given me! As a princess, and as a follower of Christ, I am called to serve others. I love this verse as a reminder: "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve..." Mark 10:45 Being a princess doesn't mean I get to sit on a throne and have people wait on me hand and foot. No, it means I am the one out serving those around me, shining Christ's light for all those around me to see.

 

I want to close with one last thought. I want to go back to the definition of a princess that says: a woman having sovereign power. As I prayed and asked the Lord to show me just when the greatest "power" comes, my answer was SUBMISSION. When I am submissive to Christ, allowing Him to have full control of my life, only then does He have the room to work. Think of all the times the Bible talks about being submissive.

 

"Submit to God and be at peace with him; in this way prosperity will come to you." Job 22:21.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord." Ephesians 5:22

"Submit yourselves then to God. Resist the Devil, and he will flee from you." James 4:7

 

...and I could go on and on. When I submit to Christ, He becomes more and more in my life. Sovereign power in my life as a princess? Why yes, His name is CHRIST.

 

So just what IS my job?

 

PRINCESS

 

...wonder how that would be received by employers on my resume?!

 

 

 

Psalm 45:9 "Daughters of kings are among your honored women..."

 

 

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Labor Lessons


Lessons can be learned in all sorts of places, in all kinds of circumstances. Sometimes lessons come discreetly through mundane situations, while others come in the middle of a trial or intense tribulation. It doesn't matter how the lesson comes, rather...what do we do with the lesson once it's learned?

 

On January 3rd, 2013, around 2:30pm, a contraction wracked my pregnant body with pain. This was nothing new, I'd been having contractions for weeks on end, and many days of constant contractions, even trips to the hospital and doctor's office thinking surely it was "the day". This contraction was much the same, and yet... deep down inside I knew that this time was the beginning of the real thing. Sometime during the 7pm hour, I made the decision that it was time to go to the hospital. The contractions had finally started to progress, and I was getting very uncomfortable. We checked in to the hospital at 9pm that evening, and thus began the last few hours of our journey to finally meet our daughter!

 

I will spare you the details of just how bad this labor was, but during the course of giving birth; I learned an invaluable lesson. The epidural I was given to numb my body of the pain didn't work properly, and as contraction after contraction seized my exhausted frame, I slowly lost the ability to control what was happening. I began what is known as "the labor shakes" and with each contraction my body would violently convulse in shaking so severe I was nearly moving the whole hospital bed. My dear husband by my side, holding me through the worst, it was all I could do to focus on breathing. With additional medication, my body decided to hand me another blow; I reacted to the medication and started throwing up. My body was reaching its limit, and yet; I still had a job to do! My daughter wasn't in our arms yet! Before the additional medication took effect and calmed my body down; I reached the lowest point I have ever been. I couldn't do it on my own anymore. I looked at Eric in sheer desperation. He knew what I was saying with my eyes. When we talked about it later, he shared with me how he saw in that moment the horror in my eyes that said "I can't do this". As I laid there unable to move thanks to the epidural that numbed my upper body instead of my lower body... I let go. I let the horror of that labor take over my body. I couldn't ease myself through each contraction anymore, I couldn't help by breathing or focusing. I just let go, and no longer tried to fight the shaking that left every muscle in my body weak with exhaustion. In those next few minutes I could no longer even pray but to cry in my heart "Oh God" with each breath. As I let go, I let myself fall into the Cheif Physician's arms... A peace washed over me like I have never experienced before. I felt the warmth of the Holy Spirit's presence wrap around me. The nurses had left the room for a little while, and it was just my hubby and me. I opened my eyes and for the first time in those last few hours I could be the one to reassure the man I loved so much. He felt the change too. I whispered to him that God was holding me. I could feel Christ right there. In that moment, I committed my body, my life, my daughter, my everything; into the hands of our Savior. No...the pain of labor didn't stop. The violent shaking didn't go away. In fact, I threw up worse after that amazing encounter with my Heavenly Father than I had before. But the peace that held my heart got me through those last few hours of labor. And at 2:44am, January 4th, 2013, the most beautiful little girl I have ever seen was placed upon my chest! Abigail Valerie was finally with us!

 

That was nearly 4 weeks ago as I sit and write this blog. And today as I struggled through getting a toddler down for his nap, and cleaning up the puke from my infant as she lost her full tummy of fresh milk; my back hurting so badly I can barely function, I felt the Lord's gentle reminder of that encounter in our hospital room. And the Holy Spirit gently nudged me and asked, "What would life look like, if at every difficult moment, I could just let go and rest in the Savior's arms?"

 

Can I really let go like I did while I was in labor? Can I trust my God enough with every moment of life and fall into the protection of His arms...and just stay there? What would the peace in my heart accomplish if I let Him so completely envelop me with His love?

 

Carry Me

by Josh Wilson

 

I try to catch my breath
It hasn't happened yet
I'm wide awake in the middle of the night scared to death
So I prayed God, would You make this stop
Father please hold on to me, You're all I've got

Carry me, carry me, carry me now
From my sinking sand to Your solid ground
The only way I'm ever gonna make it out
Is if You carry me, carry me, carry me now
God carry me, carry me, carry me now

Jesus calm my heart
Come near me please
Lord don't let these worries get the best of me
Oh I believe, that You're still here with me
Cause You meant what You said when You said You'd never leave

Carry me, carry me, carry me now
From my sinking sand to Your solid ground
The only way I'm ever gonna make it out
Is if You carry me, carry me, carry me now
God carry me, carry me, carry me now

Carry me
God carry me
Carry me
God carry me

I'm at the end of myself
I know I've got nothing left
Feels like I'm stuck in the valley of the shadow of death
And I've been down here so long
I just can't find my way out
Oh God I don't stand a chance
Unless You carry me now
God carry me now

Carry me, carry me, carry me now
From my sinking sand to Your solid ground
The only way I'm ever gonna make it out
Is if You carry me, carry me, carry me now
God carry me, carry me, carry me now

Carry me now
Carry me now
Carry me now
Carry me now